In my experience of being a dating coach, I have come across the four most powerful beliefs that guarantee love at any age. If you can shift your mindset around these four things, your chances of finding the healthy, wonderful, fulfilling relationship you are yearning for will skyrocket. But to do that, we are going to have to address that they are the opposite of what so many women believe to be true for themselves.
I have been in the same situation. These were things I used to believe were true about myself also. When I was trying to date again and find love after my divorce, these lies seriously f*cked with my self-esteem and kept me from finding healthy love for *years.*
The four Limiting mindsets/beliefs that are holding you back from love:
- It’s too late for me.
- I’m destined to be alone.
- Love is for other people. It is not for me.
- Nothing will work because nothing has worked for me before.
These myths do not have to hold you hostage anymore. These are the empowering beliefs that I found I had to adopt in order to find love again. These mindset shifts are so important to finding love. They worked for me. Likewise, they have worked for many other women. They can work for you too.
4 Powerful Beliefs About Love that Guarantee Love and Abundance:
- It’s never too late to find love. Love is there for you regardless of your age.
- You will not be alone for the rest of your life. I will not be alone unless I want to be alone
- Love is for me. I am for love. (Repeat that! Again! How does that feel?)
- Something will work for me. I just need to find out what that is.
These disempowering beliefs are sneaky, though and they can show up in many ways, but I think the best way to spot them is by listening to what you are saying out loud and in your head. Have you ever said something like:
These 6 Disempowering Beliefs
- “There are no good men out there.”
- “Men only want to date 25 year olds.”
- “I’ve already had my chance at love, and it didn’t last.”
- “It’s too late for me. I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life.”
- “I guess guys are just intimidated by me….that’s why I can’t find the good ones.”
- “I’ve never been lucky at love, so I’ll never be lucky at love.”
These disempowering beliefs are a symptom of a scarcity mindset. If you want to read more about what that means, check out my blog post, Scarcity Mindset After Divorce?
In my years of coaching midlife women just like you, I’ve heard every excuse in the book why women over 40 are convinced they’re going to die alone. Luckily, I know that these disempowering beliefs do not have to be true, and you do not have to be alone if you do not want to be alone. I have had a client who was 92 years old, and she found the love she was looking for!
Say it with me: “LOVE IS FOR ME! The love that I desire is the love that I deserve.“
No, actually. It’s a great exercise to say these things to yourself both internally and aloud. Positive self-talk is important to our mental and general health. There is no doubt you are a successful, independent, strong woman but you would be surprised how much you are holding yourself back without even realizing it. For more help on this, check out: How to Change Self-Limiting Beliefs According to Psychology.
You are worth this investment.
You are capable of attracting the love that you’ve dreamed of.
Moreover, it’s not easy to just ignore these myths…especially without a proven system and support.
In Ready for Love, my small group program exclusively for grown-ass women who want to find love again but don’t feel ready to date, you will learn how to pinpoint every single hidden disempowering belief that is keeping you from finding love. Blast those negative mindsets into smithereens using my science-backed myth and belief-releasing system. Secure the Dating Courage and Dating Confidence that will make dating motivating, exciting, and fulfilling, not stressful and disappointing.
Consequently, Ready for Love will give you everything you need to date fearlessly + confidently before you even go on that first date.
You can find healthy love again…the kind that won’t hurt you.
You have it in you to use these four powerful beliefs to find the healthy, passionate love you are looking for.
- You *can* date with clarity, courage, and confidence.
- Finally, attract the incredible love you desire.
- All you need is to take that first courageous step.
These 4 powerful beliefs about love that guarantee love and abundance are within your reach!
Happily, you are capable of attracting the love you desire.
I believe in you.
PS–I love having virtual coffee breaks/Ask Me Anything sessions. I invite you to book one, and I’ll answer your questions. Finally, I’ll also share with you how I went from an angry and heartbroken divorcee to finding incredible love with a secure, masculine, kind (and hot 😜) New Yorker. Use this link to book: https://calendly.com/martha/connection-call