We, as women, are holding back in our dating lives because we’re afraid of rejection, and it’s important to deal with it. That’s why I’m sharing how you can overcome fear of rejection in dating by never making these 2 mistakes again.
This is a major component in all my programs. I teach my Ready for Love women how to become so fearless and absolutely resilient and courageous, then when they get back out there, they date as grown-ass women.
The most common thing that I hear from all of my clients is, “I’m afraid of getting hurt again.” Or
“What happens if I invest my time and emotions into a man, and then he ghosts me?”
It’s important that we take a step back and evaluate these fears. Ask yourself questions like:
- Why is this a problem?
- Why am I letting this fear of getting rejected keep me from dating?
This is one of the biggest factors that I see my clients struggle with. They are using their fear as an excuse to not put themselves out there again.
The hard truth is, if you don’t even try, you have already lost. You have eliminated any potential for going on a fun flirty date, or meeting an incredible man, or finding love and experiencing the love that you desire. Another way to think of it is what if you wanted to run a marathon but were so afraid of spraining your ankle that you never exercise or train. Nothing is going to change because you were not willing to even try.
Why it’s very, very important to try.
If you want to experience love again, or for the first time, you’re going to have to put yourself out there. You’re going to have to be okay with rejection. Become friends with rejection. So this is important. Dating is important. It’s also crucial to recognize this fear of rejection and to quit using it as an excuse. It’s time to call our own fouls and see that rejection is not the enemy we might think it is. We have to overcome that fear, we have to recognize it, we have to dissolve it. If we want to date successfully, we have to do some trial and error. We will need to go on trial dates. So this is a fear that we have to face, we have to get comfortable with the fear of rejection and being rejected. You have to do that.
Sadly, there’s not going to be any magical guy just knocking on your door asking you for a cup of sugar because he’s your neighbor, and he’s never going to hurt you. That is not the reality we live in. We have to risk being rejected if we actually want to find and experience incredible love.
How do I overcome the fear of rejection?
I see a lot of women making a lot of mistakes with this. I want to offer this to you because this might be something that you are experiencing as well. Here’s what I see. The biggest mistake that women make when they are trying to recover from rejection, or they’re trying to become fearless, is they go to the internet. They Google it or search social media platforms with their questions. Currently, most of the answers on the web for dating at midlife are just terrible. The instinct to turn to the internet for solutions is only natural. It is not your fault that the information there is not very useful on this topic.
How do I bounce back after rejection?
Unfortunately, in my experience, most of the advice that is out there for women who are 40 and better is pretty pathetic. They say things like: “Let it go.” Or “just be confident.” I often see this advice backfire for women when they’re trying to adopt that just ‘let it go and be confident’ attitude. Hammering this into yourself is putting enormous pressure on yourself. But these social media posts and Google how-to articles don’t provide you with the tools or mechanisms, or steps to show you how to do that. So, of course, you’re going to continue to feel frustrated.
Those catch-all statements can not help very much because they are surface-level and can not get to the heart of the work that needs to be done to accomplish those things. You are trying to use that advice, you are trying to ‘just get over it.’ But you don’t know how to do that. You don’t know how that’s going to feel in your body. And you don’t know what getting over it for you really means. This causes you to feel very self-conscious and lowers your self-worth and self-esteem.
So this is what we need to address if you want to recover after rejection. You must overcome the fear that’s holding you back from dating to experience the love that you desire. This fear of rejection is stopping you. You have to take radical action to do that.
Instead of going and just Googling “how to be confident and how to let it go.” You need a better method. Google’s search results are not serving you. Because it’s just generic advice that is not formulated for you. If it had been serving you, and if it had been working for you all along, you wouldn’t have this fear. Consequently, you wouldn’t be using fear of rejection as an excuse for not getting out there. You would be having fun and dating with curiosity and dating for growth. Learning what works best for you. You wouldn’t even be reading this. Because you would already have incredible love. So this fear of rejection is what we need to address.
What you need is a scientific-backed, strategic, no-bullshit framework that is going to teach you how to become fearless. A program that teaches you how to get that lionhearted courage. If you want to learn how to do that, you have come to the right place, because I’m very, very happy to announce that coming up in May, I am actually hosting my first-ever Femme Fatale Bootcamp.
Let’s work on what’s at the core of those fears so that you can go out there and welcome rejection. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you want to be fearless, and you want to be confident, and you want to have that complete courage to go out and experience dating with all it has to offer, then it’s imperative we overcome this hurdle.
Rejection is going to be there; you can never avoid it.
In this four-week intensive empowering program, you are going to learn how to have complete badass confidence and fearlessness. So this summer, you can get out there and date as many guys as you want, date as many guys as you can. Developing this muscle quickly to learn and have fun, then when the fall comes, you are completely ready to start an actual fun relationship. Join my guided program with accountability, structure, and a no BS framework so you can learn to course correct in a wonderful loving environment. Of course, I will be guiding you as you’re dating coach for grown-ass women.
I highly encourage you to join my four week intensive course called the Femme Fatale Bootcamp, where you’re going to learn to fail quickly, and you are going to build that muscle. So then you can actually date confidently. Learn how to date with this incredible femme fatale spirit, so nothing can stop you.
Number one, if you want to date, you need to quit using your fear of rejection as an excuse.
Because that is actually keeping you from going out there and meeting and attracting great men. Remember, you must develop a tolerance for rejection in order to find the love that you have been dreaming of.
What you need and deserve is a formulated, scientifically backed plan to help you quickly recover from rejection and move on. So if that interests you, that’s why I designed my four-week mini-summer program called the Femme Fatale Bootcamp. It’s going to show you how to get yourself out there quickly.
So you can start dating and start to feel like the sex goddess and the incredible divine feminine that you are.
But whatever happens, I want you to know you are stronger than rejection. You’re braver than rejection. And you’re certainly better than this fear of rejection that you keep using as an excuse. It’s time to take action. You can do this, you deserve it. Please, know that I am here with you as your dating coach, and your accountability partner every step of the way.
Let’s talk really, really soon, and I hope to see you in the mini bootcamp or on a coffee chat call.
Use this link to book: https://calendly.com/martha/connection-call
Xo,
Martha
